Monday, May 28, 2018

My Daily Reflections: Breaking through





“Breakthrough”: that moment when you say; "I have had enough I am not going to take it anymore!"




It is both liberating and isolating!

Those who do not understand the why and the how you are changing see a stranger has emerged!

Which is why “break-throughs” are often called breakdowns; because it is simpler to identify you as crazy rather than accepting that you have grown tired of being abused and put down. 

“Break throughs” happen when you are so tired of being mistreated that you are willing to do the hard work of changing yourself and your false core beliefs come up for review!  They happen when you are tired enough of being mistreated and silently accepting mistreatment in order to “not rock the boat”’ that you are willing to face the rejection that comes with saying NO MORE.

“Break throughs” change you from the inside out, you change your beliefs about your self-worth and you create boundaries so that you stop being compliant and easy going and you begin to stand up for yourself, and hold people accountable for their negative and hurtful actions. 

“Break throughs” help you to see clearly those people who only tolerated you in their lives because of your usefulness to them; for whom saying “I love you” while treating you badly, was a way of keeping you trapped in relationships that feed their ego.

“Break throughs” are painful for they reveal truths that a part of you suspected (those moments when you felt unlovable or unworthy) but for the first time you see those truths revealed in all their ugliness and you grieve for what you thought you had but which turned out to be a lie.

“Break throughs” liberate you because you no longer cling to relationships that are based on false assumptions of caring.

“Break throughs” isolate you because the moment you no longer function as a “need fulfiller” to the users, they dump you.

Renate Dundys Marrello
2018 – 05 – 28

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