When a demeaning action of
another person brings you down, you have to work very hard to establish once
again in your own mind that you do have value and that there is nothing inherently
wrong with you.
It is a very hard journey to
return to that pace where you KNOW you are worthy even when others don’t
appreciate your worthiness.
It is all too easy to allow a
critique (whether by word or by action) to wormhole its way into your
subconscious mind and before you know it you are demeaning yourself! You start questioning your value because
someone else did not take the time to understand you and rather found it easier
to point out what they consider to be a fault in you.
A healing journey is really a way of discovering / or rediscovering your worthiness in the face of criticism and others finding fault with you, often simply because you had the audacity to have a different point of view.
Some people will feel threatened by this healing journey of yours and will even go so far as to criticize you for the energy you spend on your own healing. Can you imagine this, being called a selfish for spending time and effort on personal empowerment through healing.
A healing journey is really a way of discovering / or rediscovering your worthiness in the face of criticism and others finding fault with you, often simply because you had the audacity to have a different point of view.
Some people will feel threatened by this healing journey of yours and will even go so far as to criticize you for the energy you spend on your own healing. Can you imagine this, being called a selfish for spending time and effort on personal empowerment through healing.
What do they really fear?
I believe they fear that in
coming to believe in your own worthiness you will no longer be such an easy
target.
They fear you will now stand
up for yourself.
They fear the personal power
you are gaining.
And who really has the most to lose?
And who really has the most to lose?
Those who like being in
control.
Those who bully their way
through life pointing out other people’s faults.
Those who get a secret pleasure seeing others diminished. 
I have come to believe that those who protest the most against the time you spend healing yourself are the ones with the most to lose by your victory.
Renate Dundys Marrello
2016 - 06 - 10
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I just discovered your blog,your words are so powerful and empowering,I can tell you've spent a long time healing and exploring,I would love to know what gave you strength to help you pull through,positive affirmations?Some days are just hard to pull my boot straps up!
ReplyDeleteThank you for your feed back Lori,
ReplyDeleteSome days I feel there is no strength just determination. Determination to not allow myself to remain in the events of the past that I have no control over.
I have built myself a "healing routine" that I follow everyday to keep me on track. I read everything I can about grieving and healing and learning about people. Basically I live one day at a time charting my course day by day.
Meditation, mindfulness, spirituality these are some of the things that keep me connected to the present moment which is where living happens. It also helps that I have a hobby that keeps me engaged, I travel and record my travels with photos and a blog.
If you read some of my other writings you know that I struggle with the difficulty of healing. I totally agree, some days are so very hard.
Renate