Today there was a question in my inbox from a reader. She asks, “I want to know how one can learn to laugh again?”
I sat with the question for a while, because I have walked that path and had to learn to find joy again. But because the journey is such a personal one and such a difficult one I also did not want to create a false illusion about the nature of that journey. Here is the answer I finally sent.
There is no short cut is the best advice I can give you. It is a deliberate step by step choice you make each and every day to heal.
You have to work through each emotion, each feeling and resolve each one for yourself.
I found joining a PTSD support web page very beneficial for me. There were always tips and advice about how to take a trauma and change and heal after trauma. Actions to take now, to not let the trauma define the rest of my life.
I found meditation and gratitude to be helpful
I found resources that helped me to work on my self-confidence and self-esteem helpful.
I found dealing with co-dependent issues helpful
I found dealing with past issues in my life that I just sort of swept under the carpet because "things were okay" to be helpful.
Basically you make your own future by the choices you make each and every day.
I have been on a "healing rampage" for almost 2 years now.
Am I there yet? NO.
Am I closer than I was 2 years ago? FOR SURE!
Do I laugh now! Yes I do have joy in my life.
Am I finished with the sorrow! No there are still days when I feel the need to rant and cry and scream, "why is this happening to me?"
Is there hope that my new purpose in life will sustain me?
Will I ever be completely free of the effects of the trauma?
Unlikely, it is a part of who I am now.
I hope this helps you on your own healing journey quest.
Renate Dundys Marrello
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