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Being good has meant that in my relationships I was not
allowed to complain.
- Good people don't point out other people's shortcomings!
- Good people don't make other people feel bad about themselves by pointing out their hurtful behaviour.
- Good people forgive and overlook transgressions.
- Good people turn the other cheek.
Because I wanted to
be labeled as "good" I have had to accept being treated with
disrespect, being taken for granted, being denigrated, being dismissed,
and being treated as unworthy; simply because good people are expected to grin
and bear it, and never point out the shortcomings or hurtful behaviours
of others.
Good people are
expected to silently suffer abuse, to not make waves, to keep the peace at all
costs. That is what I was taught. That is what I am now
questioning.
I am tired of being
the good person who is willing to be walked all over. No, I am more than
tired; I am exhausted!
If the only way
people can see my goodness is by testing how much abuse I can tolerate, then I
don't want to be good anymore.
I want to be the kind of good where I am appreciated for the
good that I do not for the bad that I overlook.
Renate Dundys Marrello
2023 - 01 - 11
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