I saw this meme that said "There are four very important
words in life: Love, honesty, truth and respect. Without these in your life you
have nothing."
The above is wonderful inspiration, but it is important to look for those qualities in others as well as in yourself. Be aware that all too often others have expectations of love, honesty, truth and respect, but offer you something quite different in return.
Sadly, this has been my experience in life.
Many people want to be loved and expect to be loved
unconditionally but do not love others in return. They use love as a kind of
currency to get what they want from you.
Beware those people that demand you
behave in a certain manner before they will find you acceptable enough to love.
Then there are the people that want honesty and truth but
only as long as it is their truth that you validate. If you speak your own
truth and it contradicts what they want to hear they can and do call you all
kinds of names. This is a sign of disrespect, that they do not honour you as an
individual with a right to your own point of view. They see you only as someone
to validate their thoughts and opinions.
Beware of these people, for when
around such self centred people you start to feel less worthy and somehow
imperfect for disagreeing with them.
Finally there are those people who demand to be respected
while disrespecting you. These are the people that never accept you for who you
are but rather use you for what you can give them. If you show them kindness
they accept it as their due. I you show them insufficient adulation; they tell
you what is wrong with you for not seeing their unique specialness. At no time
do they honour or celebrate your uniqueness or your specialness.
Beware such
people for they use you to aggrandize themselves while at the same time
demeaning you and making you feel second rate.
Yes love and honesty, truth and respect are important
concepts, but expect them to be shown towards you as much as you show them
toward others.
Renate Dundys Marrello
2016 - 05 - 25
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Oh so true, my only child, a son was never taught to respect me, as his father never respected me. I was treated just like a maid. Broke my heart.. so I now alone. no family
ReplyDelete<3 I am alone, too.
DeleteI found my own family, I choose them. You have the power to surround yourself with friends and family that love, respect and treat you with kindness.... seek them out and they will find you..
ReplyDeleteThank you
ReplyDeleteI have issues with two of my children who do not like me
We were good parents
But have been grieving as if we lost two children and four grandchildren
I am a brutally honest person which makes me very unlikeable in most people's eyes
Thank you for caring enough about others to have this blog