tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794003589871580138.post3359584231391293762..comments2024-01-20T02:59:47.120-08:00Comments on Reflections on Life : Reflection on the Pain of Estrangement and the Concept of Self ForgivenessRenate Dundys Marrellohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10554730481349533628noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794003589871580138.post-79763157142577100682019-12-29T06:17:41.134-08:002019-12-29T06:17:41.134-08:00I too just read this article. It’s December 29, 20...I too just read this article. It’s December 29, 2019. I have made the decision to stop the insanity for the new year. The only reason I even have any contact with my daughter are my grandchildren boy 12 and girl 9. We have enjoyed having them both in our lives but dealing with their mother and father has been challenging! They lived near us for most of the kids young lives but 4 years ago they moved 12 hours away and it’s been difficult trying to stay in touch with the kids. Of course since they were so young their parents had to be involved for communication and that became a struggle. My daughter works all the time and my son in law could care less if the kids connect with us. He makes sure they stay in constant contact with his parents but not us. If we ask our daughter to have them call us it’s a fight. The kids are at the age now if they want to call us they know they can. <br />As for my daughter, I’m not going to keep blaming myself for her behavior. I have been her emotional bunching bag for 39 years and I’m done. She is our only child and I wanted be the best mother I could be but obviously she doesn’t agree. I had a loving relationship with my mother and so I truly do not understand this. <br /><br />Happy New Year to me because I’m done with the crying.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02200530169920604425noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794003589871580138.post-84228411696408002872015-09-15T18:30:12.930-07:002015-09-15T18:30:12.930-07:00Thank you for this article! i am currently going t...Thank you for this article! i am currently going thru this same situtation :( my adult daughter had everything growing up and i thought i had taught good values. I have been close to my grandkids since the day they were born and when my daughter gets mad she always uses the kids against me...telling me i cant see them! it breaks my heart! why do adults confuse such young minds? i have apologized to her several times for what i do not know....i miss my grandkids! in my day i could never have imagined treating my mother this way....it breaks my heartAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com