tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794003589871580138.post3094496817309114714..comments2024-01-20T02:59:47.120-08:00Comments on Reflections on Life : Post Estrangement: Leaning to create equality in relationships Renate Dundys Marrellohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10554730481349533628noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794003589871580138.post-32881624409630454232016-08-21T11:01:30.973-07:002016-08-21T11:01:30.973-07:00I do believe that in facing the challenge you have...I do believe that in facing the challenge you have already started on the journey!<br />Renate Dundys Marrellohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10554730481349533628noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794003589871580138.post-24724486736369068072016-08-19T12:44:02.949-07:002016-08-19T12:44:02.949-07:00I had no idea you spent that much time in my house...I had no idea you spent that much time in my house. Just kidding, you identified me so very well. The biggest problem is that I am an 81 year old man and recovering will take a LOT of time and soul searching. I really do not know where to start.REKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10887846170418119125noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794003589871580138.post-47397634994814707242016-06-29T21:37:54.786-07:002016-06-29T21:37:54.786-07:00Well said, I really like your perspective as I too...Well said, I really like your perspective as I too can relate to it.Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04940322878575914994noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794003589871580138.post-63770930855622214902016-06-22T03:44:26.061-07:002016-06-22T03:44:26.061-07:00Yes I agree - this does help to sort out one from ...Yes I agree - this does help to sort out one from another. Healing is so important even though, as you both say, it may not bring the estranged back. Throughout my life, I have been victimised/bullied by certain kinds of people - I seem to have been a magnet for them and have always felt powerless against their brand of mistreatment and never found a way in 60 years to stop those kinds of people from 'seeing' me and homing in. It has broken my heart that I have now had that very treatment from my own son. Healing for me means working on that aspect of me that attracts bullying behaviour. I want to be one of those people that bullies down bother with because they know they won't find a soft target - it's just figuring out how on earth you change the subtleties in your personality that scream 'VICTIM OVER HERE!' at such people.Gilly Maddisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14173834107174343901noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794003589871580138.post-68231748910124870312016-06-13T15:11:03.503-07:002016-06-13T15:11:03.503-07:00Correct! Healing oneself is quite different from ...Correct! Healing oneself is quite different from reconciliation. One must never confuse one with the other.<br /><br />However, in the face of estrangement, healing the self is the only thing we have control over. <br />I therefore chose to focus on that aspect because in doing so I retain my own power.Renate Dundys Marrellohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10554730481349533628noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794003589871580138.post-20698940147951188432016-06-13T06:36:56.262-07:002016-06-13T06:36:56.262-07:00I agree with this, but it won't necessarily br...I agree with this, but it won't necessarily bring the estranged back to you. It is good to do for yourself though.FinnLynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02576142924730513689noreply@blogger.com