tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794003589871580138.post2044738773840199901..comments2024-01-20T02:59:47.120-08:00Comments on Reflections on Life : MOVING OUT OF THE GRIEF CYCLE OF ESTRANGEMENT.Renate Dundys Marrellohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10554730481349533628noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794003589871580138.post-22098667468077264682020-12-26T08:11:03.798-08:002020-12-26T08:11:03.798-08:00I am so sorry you are experiencing this. I totally...I am so sorry you are experiencing this. I totally understand the question of WHY. It haunts our souls continually, making us question our very existence and sanity. Hugs to you from a mother who understands the pain you are going through.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01439464383145461751noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794003589871580138.post-62540702722948128632020-12-16T12:09:16.024-08:002020-12-16T12:09:16.024-08:00What happens when the estrangement is the other wa...What happens when the estrangement is the other way around- the parent cuts ties with their adult child and grandchildren for unknown reasons? This is what we are dealing with now and the pain is fierce because the question of WHY is still lingering.Sugar and Spice Make Everything Nicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10949401271958286875noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794003589871580138.post-31496533122751591922019-06-30T03:25:56.338-07:002019-06-30T03:25:56.338-07:00I have been up all night scrolling through pages o...I have been up all night scrolling through pages of internet sources trying to find words to help me with this. Your article, which I will read a few more times so that the wisdom seeps more deeply into my soul, is incredibly strong and valuable to me. I have an amazing marriage with the dearest man in the world and one other daughter with whom I have a deep and close bond and relationship. However, my eldest has decided that she is not going to have me in her life and has just stopped communicating. I saw it coming, over the years. Now, she is in a "good" place financially, has a fiance, a beautiful home and a new baby who just turned a year. I hurt her in my second marriage by being naive and not realizing how much she was being hurt by that relationship. I just tried fixing things and even after it finally fell apart, she helped me and I helped her and we went on together. Now, that she has her own family, she is remembering only the bad and has chosen to just leave me, the reminder of that, behind. I am lost. I am so sad. I am devastated. The anger and coldness in her is so painful. It was not getting better and my begging her to please, I would do anything, only made her more cold. So, now, I move on and with the help of my husband, who begs me to move on with him and our life together, I will move on. The pain this has caused my parents, who are confused but interestingly have been estranged by my eldest sister who walked away from everyone. There is dysfunction here. Which I truly tried to avoid with constant perseverance. However, something just flipped out and never back again, no matter how hard I tried. And so, I still have the love of my youngest, the love of my parents and the devotion and love of my husband, a unicorn who fell from the sky and into my life, our lives, 15 years ago. I owe it to him and to my other daughter and myself to not fall apart. It is so so hard. I cannot describe the deep well my heart and soul fell into and echoing around begging for rescue. I will read your other work and the other responses. This has given me a soothing feeling, just writing this. I know it was long but thank you for the flow of thoughts to come out this early Sunday morning. piawoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17750492665342330076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794003589871580138.post-71395689319664127372018-10-18T16:31:45.228-07:002018-10-18T16:31:45.228-07:00Just happened to find your article on the 3 year a...Just happened to find your article on the 3 year anniversary of our Adult daughter leaving our lives yet again. Unfortunately this time it seems there will be no reconciliation. My heart is broken because she has also taken away the ability to share the lives of our 5 Grand Children - 2 of whom we have never met. After years of being so broken and depressed I came to the same conclusion as you did in your article & own situation. The only way forward through the pain and shame is learning to live again. Learning new things, being glad for the blessings I still have, and leaning on my faith to get me through. Your article was so full of hard earned wisdom...Thank You for sharing it!Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11590834110968577791noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794003589871580138.post-46212210176637494672015-03-09T18:54:56.862-07:002015-03-09T18:54:56.862-07:00Nina Wornham words have lifted me to the next leve...Nina Wornham words have lifted me to the next level of freedom. The weight has been lift from my heart and thrown from my shoulders. My spirit has taken the leap and now I will fly. Thank you!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06132422038626697912noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794003589871580138.post-44791232302325069272015-03-09T16:13:33.179-07:002015-03-09T16:13:33.179-07:00Thank you Renate, for your eloquent words. Day af...Thank you Renate, for your eloquent words. Day after day your words are a balm for my heart. 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